Your idea of selflessness is selfish

The worst quality that I think you have as a human being is being fully capable of acknowledging that you have bad habits and that you are not a good person and you made some terrible decisions in your past and saying that you've changed despite really not doing anything about it and you're slipping back into those old bad habits and in turn you're hurting people around you that you say that you care about but you actually don't and you're hurting yourself first before anybody else.

You are fully capable and knowledgeable of the way you treat others and how your decisions upon other people affect how they think of you and you keep feeding into that because that's the only thing you know how to do.

By all means you meet the standards of being a good person, You do good things for people and you say good things to people but at the end of the day it's not about the things you do FOR people it's the things you do TO people.

You fully convince yourself that you're a good person by doing good deeds to people who probably don't even deserve it in the first place.

 The only reason they're there is because you keep stringing them along you keep saying the things they want to hear and you're only being there for them because you gained something out of it.

You do not value these people as much as they value you.

 because if you did you wouldn't be stringing them along just to say that you have them around you.

You wouldn't just string them along just to say that you have someone looking at you the certain way that you want to be looked at.

Your entire relationship with the people you do not value in any certain way is purely transactional. 

You give them what they need and they give you what you need.

and that's all its dwindled down to.